Children are like sponges.
They soak up information and learn things so easily.
Has been found that to become grammatically correct, proficient, in a new language its best start before age 18. That's a lot older than researchers used to be believed it was. It used to be believed that you had to start before the age of eight.
But to become completely fluent it is best to start before the age of 10.
It’s also widely recognised that the earlier someone starts, the easier it is to become more natural. And the less burdensome it is to learn.
Why am I talking about language?
How does learning a language relate to our mental health?
Well, our children are constantly learning from us, and we learned from our parents, carers, guardians, people in our environment when we were growing up.
It's how we learned about emotions.
How we learn to recognise them, interpret them. Respond to them.
How we know how to do that in ourselves and in other people.
Have you ever thought about how proficient you are with your emotional language?
Do you have the correct vocabulary? A full vocabulary? Do you know all the grammar rules. How to express emotions? Do you understand and interpret them correctly?
Or are there somethings you don't know? Are there gaps in your knowledge?
Often, we learn the basics but not know the entirety of something.
Like when we use a foreign language on holiday. We might only know how to ask for a beer, or to say thank you when someone holds the door open.
But not be fully fluent enough to hold a full conversation.
As with language, although it’s easier when we are young, learning about our emotions is never too late.
It is one of the many things I teach my clients. Emotional intelligence, EQ, can help fill the gaps that we didn't learn when we were young.
It helps us to listen to our emotions in our body. To understand what they mean. It can help to save a lot of heartache. Our bodies are constantly sending us messages about the environment. The situations were in, how we feel physically and emotionally.
Unfortunately, if we haven't been taught how to listen or what each of those messages mean, it can feel scary. Are you wondering why your emotions are all over the place right now? Click here to learn more.
We can misinterpret the signals as signs of danger. We can get anxious. Do things to ignore them or drown out those signs. This recognised then adds more physical symptoms, by means of fight and flight. And so, it goes on. Click here to Understand further how anxiety works.
Sometimes get physical diagnosis that partial explains the symptoms. But just like when we try out our holiday Spanish and don't get the food that we thought we were ordering. We can get annoyed and upset and want to leave the situation to go somewhere else, because we end up with things that we just don't want. Just because we don't fully understand the language.
But we can learn. We can learn to deal with our emotions SAFELY.
If you are interested to learn. Interested to know what the different signs in your body mean, what the different sensations mean, to learn how to interpret your own body, than comment below or get in touch by DM. I'm always happy to help teach you the language of the emotions.
It's never too late to learn.